My wife refuses to let my mother stay with us. What should I do?
Answer
We understand the dilemma you are going through. Usually when it comes to these sorts of issues, the wife is reluctant to host her parents in law because of two reasons. The first of which is that she would feel confined in her own home where she loses her freedom to move around as she wishes. The second reason has to do with bearing the burden of serving them i.e. cooking, cleaning, laundry etc..
Thus the wife could be reluctant to agree with the husband’s wish to bring his parents to stay with them. That being said, it should be clear that it is legally prohibited in Islamic law for the wife to prevent the husband from bringing his parents to live with his wife if they are unable to take care of themselves or having difficulty living alone at such old age. It is also impermissi ble for the husband to force his wife to serve his parents and bearing the burden of cleaning, cooking and so on and so forth as it is not her responsibi lity to do so. If the wife graciously agrees out of her good heart and free will, then she would be rewarded immensely for her righteous act but if she refuses and expressed her objection to serve, then she is not blameworth y and the husband has to respect her wish.
In this case, the husband has to find a servant to aid his parents during their stay with him or to find a near apartment where his parents can live and find a servant to help them in their daily affairs and in the meantime he could pay his parents regular visits to look after them.
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